Why CAKEd?

I am a technology visitor (and I'm proud to be one!). Would I be better with modern day dating if I were more technologically savvy? Unsure. Why? Because the issues underlying modern dating isn't just about technology and disconnection. 

The internet, dating apps, Tik Tok, IG didn't create the bad habits we readily engage with in online dating behaviors. At some point, we began to normalize and accept swiping, ghosting, orbiting, catfishing, etc. as ok behavior. It is us, the people, who choose to stop treating others kindness, empathy and transparency. 

Now, it's time to make technology work for us. Let's make a better place by providing a more human connection to technological advancements so we can have our cake and eat it too. 

Changing the Narrative...

Learn about the basic, underlying social psychology principles we are using to return back to connecting within the humanness in ourselves and with to each other.

We starting by setting different social norms to the dating game. CAKEd's principles lay within believing in the goodwill and best in people.

kindness

empathy

transparency

Belief in Ourselves and Others...

 

Did you know that when students sign a pledge in a take-home test promising not to cheat, then the likelihood of cheating significantly decreases? CAKEd uses this same principles, but we aim to promote prosocial behaviors with intention.

We hope you will only join this community if you genuinely connect with our values. Maybe you will discover a few new things about yourself too!

Do Your Values Align with CAKEd?

 

____I like the idea of online dating with kindness, empathy and transparency

____I'm burnt out from online dating and it's making me a bit disillusioned

____I super dislike the poor social etiquette and bizarreness of the online dating world

____Current online dating norms don't vibe with my personal values

____My experiences of online dating has become another task to add onto my already overflowing plate

Self-Selection 

Based on YOUR honesty policy, you are pledging to join a  "dating pool" of likeminded people who share the same values of treating one another with KINDNESS, EMPATHY and TRANSPARENCY and willing to follow the Best Etiquette Guidelines (it's not that bad... really).

What is the CAKEd Process?

Step 1: The Self-Selection Process

When you submit your information to CAKEd, you enter a "dating pool" of like-minded individuals who share our core values (it's in our name) and transparency. 

Getting CAKEd

If a potential "match" is found (i.e. you are "CAKEd"), then I conduct a rudimentary screening of both parties.

Screening

Both individuals will then receive an email with follow-up questions and a 5-minute phone screening with me. If all goes well, you both get "caked" where I pass on your emails via email.

Celebrate!

Hope you found your special cupcake (sorry couldn't help myself)

Do you feel like any of this?  

____ you've kind of given up trying to find that special someone because online dating has turned you off so much?

____ you've considering forking your entire savings account for those matchmaking services?

____ you've been hoping a little too much that you will find someone at the metalsmithing, music writing, painting and meditation hobbies you've picked up over the years (but it still hasn't happened)?

____ you'll throw up in your mouth a little if you have to pretend that Meet Up and "finding someone in the wild" offers the same opportunities during middle-aged life?

____ you're part of that 30% of middle-aged people that resigned to singlehood indefinitely (kinda scientific data provided by Hinge and Tinder)?

____You're about to resign to a life of singlehood indefinitely because even thinking about returning to the dating arena is synonymous with eating a cactus (those big ones with big needles, not the cute small ones)