Is it my perimenopausal brain? Or that I probably never rebounded from "mommy brain" (and she's almost into the double digits)? I kept messing up at first because I couldn't figure out how to SWIPE LEFT versus SWIPE RIGHT. Then, the sinister online dating dieties decided some apps would use shapes and colors... just when I had mastered that right side is "yes" (I think?). Also, what's with the friend function?
Yes, I have four degrees and I still cannot figure out what a reel means. Why do I need more than one social media account? Why are middle-aged friednships now based on online presence when the internet wasn't even part of a chunk of our childhood?
I'll just admit it. It's not that it's hard. I'm not interested. I feel rebellious everytime I have to sign into Facebook or my iPhone gets ANOTHER update because I don't want to figure out where the text box went this time (on top, bottom, side, behind the phone?). Maybe I'm a curmudgeon.
Anyways, the point here is that the unpredictability of middle-aged dating already has unique pitfalls. The difficulty with staying on top of technology trends makes the dating scene so much more difficult.
Which leads to the point of this movement. It's hard to stay connected to one another in a deeper and meaningful way.. and it's harder to truly cherish someone's presence when there are so many distractions.
Some people thrive in the fast-paced dating and technological modernizations. I probably should have Gemini write this actually... but then, what's the point? We want the human in the relationships back, right? You want to see my typos and poor grammar.. maybe? Because in the realm of dating (and general relationships, we still love the humanness and the human condition of imperfections.
The constant updates and perfecting, honing, updating, changing the battery charger- starts to strip some of that humanness away.
How do we balance humanness and technology? We do it by identifying our values and grounding ourselves in our authentic identities. If we know ourselves well, then we can deliberately choose to hold onto values close to us- regardless of what society says to us, how quickly Apple upturns my world or how we've started dehumanizing people by swiping on their pictures.
If a value of yours is to be honest, then lead with honesty even though everyone's pictures are filtered and have cat ears (why?). Empower yourself in your truthfulness and know you are honoring yourself when you are remaining true to yourself.
Your relationship with yourself matters more than middle-aged dating.
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